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The Invisibility Wound

Key Elements of the Invisibility Wound


“I’m here… but no one really sees me.”



💔 Core Belief


“People don’t really see, hear, or understand me.”
“My inner world doesn’t matter to others.”
“I have to shout, perform, or disappear — there’s no in-between.”




🧩 Unmet Need


💠To feel seen, heard, and emotionally recognized for who you truly are.


Not just noticed for your actions, but acknowledged for your inner world — your thoughts, feelings, and lived experience.




🛡️ Protective Patterns


To avoid the pain of being ignored or misunderstood, you may:

  • Keep quiet or hold back emotions, assuming no one will listen

  • Over-explain or intensify your expression to be noticed

  • Adapt your personality to fit others’ expectations

  • Dismiss your own needs and feelings as unimportant

  • Feel chronically misunderstood, even in close relationships



🧠 Internalized Narrative


“Why bother speaking up? No one really listens.”
“I have to hide parts of myself to stay accepted.”
“Even when I show up, people only see the surface.”
“Maybe what I feel doesn’t really count.”




🌱 Healing Path


🔎 Reconnect with your own inner world: feelings, needs, desires
✍️ Begin expressing yourself for you, not just for others to hear
🗣️ Practice honest, congruent expression — not louder, just truer
🌼 Offer yourself the attention and validation you’ve been waiting for
🤝 Share from a place of self-connection, not desperation




🔄 Core Shift


From:

“No one really sees me — I must be invisible.”

To:
“I see myself clearly — and I deserve to be known as I am.”

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