The Insecurity Wound

Key Elements of The Insecurity Wound

“I’m not safe — I can’t protect myself.”

💔 Core Belief

“People or situations will hurt me.”
“I can’t trust myself to stay safe.”
“I’m too sensitive to handle life.”
“Something bad is always about to happen.”
“If I let my guard down, I’ll fall apart.”

🧩 Unmet Need

🛡️ The need for safety, protection, and nervous system regulation

To feel emotionally and physically secure — able to face life without constant fear of being hurt, overwhelmed, or destabilized.

🛡️ Protective Patterns

To avoid re-experiencing pain or chaos, you may:

• Stay hypervigilant in relationships or public spaces

• Avoid conflict, feedback, or uncertainty

• Ruminate on potential threats or worst-case scenarios

• Suppress emotions until they explode

• Withdraw from new situations or change

• Struggle to trust or rely on others

• Avoid setting boundaries for fear of escalation — or overcorrect by becoming rigid or avoidant

🧠 Internalized Narrative

“The world isn’t safe — and I can’t protect myself.”
“People are unpredictable and might hurt me.”
“My fear is a warning, and I must always listen to it.”
“I have to anticipate everything or I’ll get hurt.”
“I’m not equipped to handle pressure, anger, or change.”

🌱 Healing Path

🌬️ Soothe the body’s survival responses through grounding, breath, and co-regulation
🧠 Catch and question catastrophic or fear-based thoughts
🛡️ Rebuild boundaries to feel emotionally protected in relationships
🚪 Experiment with small acts of safe exposure to uncertainty, anger, or vulnerability
🧍‍♀️ Develop the capacity to be with discomfort — without abandoning yourself

🔄 Core Shift

From: 

“I’m unsafe, and I can’t protect myself.”

To:
“I am building safety inside myself — and I can handle more than I thought.”